Social Engineering in Relationships, Pt.1: Commodify & Degrade

The world of dating and relationships has become so awful, so fast, strange new social phenomena are emerging in response - and they are catastrophic. Few people see why this is happening, but I do.

Most of my content is about “information warfare,” and centers around the concept that a hidden group of elites, joined by extreme wealth, power, and the desire to manufacture certain “ancient prophecies” in a bid to control the world, is constantly attacking society in various ways in order to create chaos intentionally.

The goal in manufacturing that chaos is this: to divide society by creating confusion and conflict, then guiding the “sides” in these manufactured divisions toward predetermined outcomes only they know and understand, while everyone else simply suffers.

My goal is to make people aware of this war on humanity, so they can protect themselves from these attacks that pummel us all day, every day – and hopefully, survive them.

While this might seem farfetched to you if you’re new to this worldview, you should know this is how the Western world has been managed since well back in the 1800s, and how the entire world has been managed since after World War II.

And I mean, at this point, hopefully the mask is off about how the world works. Look around; it should not be hard for you to see today that there is always a tiny group of people getting rich and powerful from every war or social conflict, and they have every reason to make sure those things keep happening – so they divide us, hurl us into conflict of every kind, and profit off the energy we throw into “winning” these battles that didn’t even exist until they created them.

But as I explain this, what goes through your mind is probably things like wars, religious conflicts, social revolutions, and government overthrows manufactured by agencies like the CIA. And you’re right to do so; all of those are indeed examples of this process at work.

But I bet one area of life that didn’t cross your mind as being touched by this process is modern dating and relationships. And that’s because, even as someone who studies and publishes content on this field daily – it never occurred to me either, until very recently. But when it did…it hit me like a Mack truck.

Now, I bet you do know that dating and relationships in today’s world is severely broken. No matter your age, I’m sure you are aware that dating today is emotionally brutal, frustrating, and often fruitless; if you are in your 20s, that chaos is perhaps all you’ve ever known, but if you’re in your mid-30s and beyond, you probably recognize that its dismal, but you perhaps at least had a taste of what it used to be like “back in the old days.”

However, the last decade-plus has seen the rise of social media, dating apps, internet pseudo-psychology, and an overall social environment that has taken dating from the most natural thing humans can do – be attracted to each other and bond romantically – to now, perhaps the most complicated (and for many, the most painful.)

In response to this massive social problem that seemingly arose out of nowhere, there has naturally also followed the commercialization of “strategies” in how to win this “game” which has poisoned our minds even more.

As dating and relationships has gotten more complicated, people have turned to “experts” for advice on how to navigate it, and that has increasingly given rise to ever-more bizarre and extreme characters and ideologies that are unquestionably making everything worse (remember: profiting and benefiting from manufactured chaos!)

From “redpill” influencers on the men’s side teaching them to aggressively pursue and flaunt wealth, then use a variety of psychological manipulation tricks to bait women into thinking they’ll get a share of it while they use them for sex, to “hypergamy” influencers on the women’s side brainwashing women to see men only as income streams and coaching them on how to look, dress, and behave to bait “high value men” into giving them everything from designer bags to trips to the coveted “ring” – it’s all become a big, brutal, psychological battleground, in a very short amount of time.

What this has created is a meat-grinder environment where most people will be rendered largely uncompetitive and will be cast aside, but where even “winning” is a Pyrrhic victory at best. After all, women who play this “game” need to invest tens of thousands of dollars into clothes, makeup and surgeries only to be “chosen” by a man they perceive to be rich who cares nothing for their inner beauty and who will probably replace them later; and men get the “privilege” of perhaps achieving wealth and social status, only to discover that they were being hunted by women who always cared nothing for him as a person, but were only “shopping” for a lifestyle.

At the finish line, both men and women will find themselves having spent years of their lives competing in a game that was designed to destroy them both, while their pasts are littered with disappointments and broken hearts – the most painful of which will be their own.

And that’s for the people who supposedly win! Ironically, the people most likely to be relatively emotionally unscathed by this cultural warfare will be those who avoided relationships altogether - which more and more people are actually doing. In today’s youngest generation, a bizarre phenomenon is that there are fewer relationships, marriages, and even sexual encounters taking place as many men and women “check out” of the entire process, finding it entirely too draining to keep up. This is the case in not only the West, but virtually every “advanced” economy in the world.

This is demonstrated by various statistics; but even anecdotally, among my own followers and clients whom I engage with as an educator in “counter-narrative information warfare,” I hear it all the time: many young Americans in their 20s just aren’t dating - and nobody seems to know exactly why.

But people are still people, and the most natural thing young men and women can possibly do is find each other attractive, couple up, bond, and mate. This is not rocket science; it’s human nature. Left alone, humans will very naturally do this, and they always have. It is today’s environment of relentless social engineering, cultural warfare, and manufactured male vs. female opposing ideologies that is screwing everything up (and very much on purpose.)

Among normal, emotionally healthy, mature people without any kind of personality disorders or psychological traumas, both “redpill” and “hypergamy” ideologies (and any others that the internet comes up with) probably sound bizarre and pathological; the domain of damaged men with fragile egos who weren’t loved enough as kids, and damaged women with father wounds and deeply-rooted insecurities who are both trying to find the “fix” to their unhappiness by exploiting the opposite sex for social media clout. And there is a lot of truth in all of that.

But if we take single people as a whole, they surely run the gamut from the most normal, emotionally healthy people who want to find a loving partner they can build a life with – what we will all the traditional “center” – to the most unhealthy, who indulge in the most pathological ways of “dating” based on playing games, psychologically tormenting each other, and seeking out sex or cash in as much abundance as possible, at what we’ll call the growing fringe of society; what we’ll call the “periphery.”

In my view, this all ties back into society-wide cultural warfare and social engineering at the absolute highest level I mentioned at the outset. I believe that, through manufacturing narratives, pushing certain lifestyles and trends, and promoting purposely socially destructive ideologies, more and more people are intentionally being pushed away from the healthy center and toward the emotionally disturbed and more easily manipulable periphery.

Why? I believe this is being done to erode the fabric of Western society, manufacture loneliness and misery, and destroy the family unit as much as possible, all in accordance with certain agendas that are actually well-established (but again, very much hidden from the view of the mainstream population.)

Only recently, the field of male-female relationships has only presented fertile new ground in which to sow these agendas, so they are being hammered hard, and with tremendous effect. That effect is what we are feeling so suddenly, and so painfully, in the world of dating and relationships in our time.

What I see, coming from the perspective of someone whose been intensely focused on researching and exposing the grand conspiracies and the “big picture agenda” that is radically reordering society in our time, is that the means by which the dating field has been so dramatically reengineered is through the concept of “commodification.”

This is a very important concept to understand because the “elites” at the top of the food chain who are carrying out this agenda have systematically commodified everything under the sun over the course of the last couple centuries (and they are still coming for whatever is left.)

Commodification essentially means the conversion of any given thing into a unit of economic value that can be bought, sold, or traded in a marketplace. In the past this could have been something simple like fruits, livestock, or handicrafts; but today, the resource being most aggressively commodified is human beings (though again, few of us perceive this.)

The genius move of these elites and their social engineers has been getting all of us to commodify each other. A rudimentary way of doing this is the classic way men will “rate” a woman on a 1-10 scale; most of us are familiar with that. But as time has gone on and the world of single people has increasingly become a “dating market,” there has followed increasingly complex of gauging the “value” of a man or woman, whether its increasing or declining as a function of time, and how that value compares to that of other people “on the market.”

Men still want hot women, and women still want successful men, but increasingly there are formulas and strategies to “maximize value” in what has been a subtle but magnificently effective way of getting humans to all convert each other into numbers and ratings, complete with even projections on whether that “value” is increasing or decreasing, and whether one should “invest” in it.

We even consider what we “have to offer” or what someone “brings to the table”; and surely you’ll notice that these are economic terms, which we’ve all been subtly manipulated into using when assessing both people and the relationships we may have with them.

We don’t know it – the only reason I do is because I have studied these people and their patterns so intently for so long - but while the elites at the top have seen us as nothing but units of economic value for centuries, they now have us doing it to each other: first commodification, and then the inevitable degradation that follows.

Commodify and degrade; that is the process at work consuming everything on the planet, and it is presently consuming us too. This is why the so-called “dating market” has turned from a place for people to find potential companionship and love into a place of dehumanization, exploitation, bargaining, shopping around, discarding, trading-in, and upgrading – all habits we have adopted as consumers, which we are now being socially engineered to use on each other.

This commodification process has taken off in perhaps only the last decade or so, and it’s become extremely popular on social media (the world’s ultimate mass brainwashing tool in our time) with many so-called dating coaches and relationship experts peddling this new ideology.

One professional psychologist whose work I actually enjoy, despite the fact that he takes the commodification ideology to an extreme and I do also disagree with many of his assertions, is psychologist Orion Taraban. Host of the popular Psych Hacks YouTube channel and author of the book The Value of Others, he touts what he calls an “economic model of dating,” in which various principles of classic free market economics are applied to the world of dating and relationships. (View a summary of The Value of Others here.)

In his view, every man has a certain “value” applied to him by women, and every woman has a certain “value” assigned to her by men; and for the most part, men’s value comes down to wealth and social status, and women’s value comes down to youth and beauty. The term he uses for this is “sexual marketplace value,” which he even abbreviates as SMV.

But there’s more (much more, unfortunately.) There is perceived SMV, based on what a certain individual thinks about another person (pSMV); normalized SMV, based on cultural norms and beauty standards (nSMV); and even transacted SMV, which is where a “transaction” (i.e. a sexual encounter) takes place (tSMV).

And, just as in economics, these various values are plotted through time in a kind of “forecasting” process; for women, their SMV peaks in their 20s and is constantly going down, while for men, it is very low in their 20s and is constantly going up, until past retirement age (again, this is owing the concept that women’s only real value is youth and beauty, and men’s only value is money and the lifestyle it can buy, and that that is basically the sole basis upon which people are selecting partners.)

This is a graph of the “SMV” model as it applies to both men and women according to Taraban’s model. The “peak” of SMV correlates with youth/beauty for women and earning power and social status for men; but in the West, age differential relationships are very frowned upon, creating yet another area of dissatisfaction and conflict between men and women.

It is rather bizarre, not to mention extraordinarily cynical. But with 830K followers, Taraban’s ideas have a large (and rapidly growing following.) Now, I actually like Taraban; he is an excellent presenter, has lots of useful advice outside his myopic view on dating based on “SMV,” and is quite entertaining.

But whether he knows it or not (and I imagine he does) he is working to legitimize and accelerate the process by which people in the West are commodifying and degrading not only each other but themselves (because one consents to being judged in this paradigm as soon as one begins utilizing it on others.) The “help” he offers is, as a result, is making the overall dismal environment of dating today even worse.

He seems to know it too, at least at some level. In much of his content he seems to despair of the present-day situation and the grinding-down effect it is having on people’s mental and emotionally health at large. But he quickly explains it away as “that’s just the way it is now,” and goes back to teaching his simplistic and hyper-rational view about how people choose who they love (which is fundamentally flawed because, as anyone who has ever been in love knows, falling in love is a very irrational process, and who one falls in love with is often, for better or worse, an irrational choice; but I digress for now.)

Where I do agree with Taraban is, ironically, the area in which he himself is part of the problem: that this coldly hyper-rational way of viewing all people of the opposite sex in terms of “sexual marketplace value” and “investing” in them or not is a cultural poison that is catastrophically destroying the expectations, behaviors, and relationship potential for fulfillment of an entire generation.

And while he casts blame and gives advice for both sides of the equation, one senses that women are taking more of the blame for their part in it; and this is actually another area in which I agree. He laments the sudden and dramatic shift in women’s priorities in dating to a single-minded mission to “marry rich” which, perhaps unbeknownst to them, has the vast majority of single women competing only over the top 5-10% of single men.

This phenomenon – clearly being driven by social media lifestyle pursuits and the “hypergamy coaches” it has created – has created a massive imbalance, in which that tiny sliver of the male dating pool has access to a virtually limitless amount of attractive young women clamoring over each other for access to what they think will be his wealth. Meanwhile, those men are easily clever enough to realize that all that fun will stop the moment they commit to one – so they don’t.

Combine that with the fact that wealthy men can still use their wealth in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and beyond to score with the most attractive women in their early 20s, and there is no incentive for them to commit (and even if they do, there is still every incentive to cheat, because they can); and all this while the other 90-95% of men is effectively being ignored.

The inevitable end result, as he tersely puts it, is “hypergamy leads to polygamy.” And while that may not necessarily look like a Mormon guy on a farm with 5 wives in country dresses in Utah, it is polygamy of an unofficial nature. While it may never be recognized or admitted to by the women who engage in it, such men will increasingly either cycle through women quickly or have a handful around in “sugar baby” relationships, and the women will consent to it (even if they remain in denial of it.)

This dynamic is very much in effect already today, in the United States probably more than anywhere else. And not just in South Florida or Los Angeles, but increasingly everywhere, thanks to the internet and websites that facilitate precisely these arrangements. In my own life, I have met a surprising number of women who were or have at some time been in such relationships; and, perhaps bizarrely, they are often looking for serious boyfriends, who will accept them remaining “on call” for their sponsors. While that may sound crazy, I promise you: this is much more common than you think.

The net result, once again, is women taking themselves “off the market” to reserve themselves only for exploitation by this ideal “high SMV” man, but that dynamic only lasts until roughly the age of 30, where they lose much of their own “SMV” in that respect. Theoretically, that is the age where they often finally seek to “settle” for a more normal guy, but who – if he is a quality man – is either already married, or will be turned off by such a woman’s past and will not see her as a potential wife, leaving such women wondering “where all the good men are” and blaming men for the shortcoming.

This dynamic is rampant today, and will likely only get worse as the social engineering continues and these belief systems become more widespread. Unfortunately, between men and women, the ones being most carefully targeted by these hyper-destructive beliefs is young women, because they are the ones who are more impressionable, and the ones who can be “ruined” earlier by this social engineering process.

As both a student and a teacher of social engineering tactics, this must be understood: most social engineering campaigns target women, because their increased emotiveness, higher tendency to want to be “on trend,” and higher use of technology renders them much more responsive to programming. This is as true in corporate marketing as it is social engineering; they lead women, and the men later follow.

Women don’t see it; but men do (especially “high value” ones), and the social engineers creating this chaos and misery intentionally definitely do. But by the time the women finally do – its usually too late. Like virtually all of today’s large-scale attacks on civilization, they have the essential quality of a “Deal with the Devil,” in that they execute them not by force, but through consent, after the victims have been systematically confused and manipulated into eagerly accepting what will ultimately be their own demise.

Again, this is not normal, natural, or healthy; it is being actively promoted precisely because it is the opposite of all those things. It generates loneliness, misery, distrust, and despair, leaving people more psychologically damaged and vulnerable – the optimal state for them to seek for and accept even more social engineering, pulling them deeper and deeper into a mental black hole. And the more it happens, the more normalized it becomes; and the more normalized it becomes, the more society will become lonely, isolated, and easy to manipulate in a downward spiral.

But that’s not the endgame; unfortunately it’s only the beginning, of a much wider war on relationships, families, and overall mental health and social cohesion.

In the next part of this series, I’ll get into additional elements of the way dating, relationships, and even well-established families are being torn asunder by these powerful social engineering campaigns, and tell you how it fits into the really big picture: the moves to conquer and enslave the entire human population within roughly the next decade, and bring about a “New World Order” after catastrophically tearing down the old.

This process is already very much under way, and once you are aware of how its happening, I assure you that you’ll be shocked and disheartened. However it is only then can you actively begin resisting this process in your own life and relationships, and – hopefully – survive this war on an entire civilization that most people will perish in.

See you in Part Two…